Many of the people I work with, coaching, training, supervising, believe that other people are to blame for what's going wrong or awry in their lives.

They also, very often, either make on attempt, or lack the know-how to communicate their concerns in a non-blaming way.

Blaming others, silently or loudly, is ne of the ways we deny responsibility for our own input to our ongoing problems, and that choice prevents people (well, me too at times) from being at our best, and building bridges with the 'enemy' who's being held accountable for all their woes.

Answers to the three 'headline' questions above, are worth exploring because they can help determine deletions, distortions and generalisations in the person's model of reality.

And they're very good questions for mediation or conflict resolution, as well as making [group] decisions.

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